Let’s talk about regrets

Sunday, August 7, 2011 5 comments

        Are you the kind of person, often than not, dwell on things that you have not done but really had the opportunity to do so? Or on things that you have done but you should really not or you should have done better. And these questions would often bother your mind; What if I did? and What if I did not?

           The past few weeks I've really been reflecting about different things in my life because of our retreat and our recent show and tell in one of our classes. One of the things I learned is all about different regrets in life.  I did not actually plan to write this blog. I still have so much things to do but then I got somewhat emotional again since I went home, here in Bulacan. I really had the best moment of my week upon seeing my two nieces and nephew who washed away all the stresses in me. They really make me happy.

             I've come across this saying that it is better to regret the things you have done than those that you have not. This kept me thinking of a lot of regrets I have in my life. Mostly involving those that I have not done and including those future regrets that may occur because I did not do anything.

That I never told somebody exactly how I felt when i should have
That I never seem to appreciate those who really care and I tend to take them for granted
That I did not give my best in my studies in college
That I forget things that really matter in life- relationships with God, family and friends
That I underestimate my self and limit myself to my comfort zone
That I overestimate my self and set high limits that I cannot reach
and the biggest regret I have, in general, is
That I have been allowing my fears to control my life, even up to now. 

               If you have read my previous post about fears, you'll understand why. It's such a sad thing that I know that that is the main reason why I am unhappy but then I would not do anything about it because of fear, I guess. This is really so complex for me. 

                 I'll try to share detailed stories soon because it would take some time to share them all here. Anyway, I know that there are a lot of times in our lives that we wished for another chance. To go back to that moment and try to change things for the better. But in life there is no reset button for you to start all over again. The good thing is that it lets you continue with your life and eventually make right the things you have done wrong before. Also, we should always keep in mind that everyday is an opportunity for us to make things right, we just had to have the courage to do such. There would not always be tomorrow nor second chances. Don't wait until it's too late already. 

                  I did not write this blog to down myself, pity myself or whatsoever, I write this with the hope that soon I could say that I have learned from my regrets and have made things right already. 

You? What's your biggest regret in life? And how did you overcome it?


  • oricardo said...

    Bumigat ang pakiramdam ko a...

    Ako, hindi ko pa na-o-overcome ang biggest regret ko...tsktsk

    "...it is better to regret the things you have done than those that you have not." - tama 'to.

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